aka Status Update
It’s been almost three weeks since Mom died. The first week was wading through concrete mixed with planning the burial/memorial service. The second week was more wading through concrete. I just couldn’t…make myself do anything. I didn’t cook, I didn’t work out, I didn’t really talk to any friends…I just existed.
In the meantime, on the good news front, I got a new job. I explained about my loss and they said I could start this week or even a week later if needed. I started Monday and am working MWF, 4-6 hours per day.
I’ve worked five days a week for four hours a day for the past three years, so this is a bit of a change. But having two full days during the week at home to do all the extra-curricular things has been a good thing to adapt to. Including finally replacing the car that got totaled back in January.
In terms of grieving, if I don’t think or talk about her, I’m ok. I can get my life done and work and grocery shop etc. If it comes up in conversation, I start to cry. So, yeah. Pretty sure that’s “normal” whatever that means.
Awhile back I had four really difficult things going on–my job loss, the car, one of my kids and my mom. All four things are now–for better for for worse–resolved. I’m now dealing with (or not dealing with, as the case may be) a different situation with a different family member and I don’t have a path forward at this moment because this family member is extremely difficult to deal with on a good day and this person is not having a good day with me right now. A talk needs to be had, and I hope I can be courageous enough to have it, but I’m fully and totally aware that this person is not willing to relate in an adult Christian manner (although they are both) and the talk may quickly devolve into something even more damaging than has already happened. So as much as this situation is constantly on my mind, and even keeping me awake at night, I’m avoiding confrontation/conversation until I feel like this person might be more receptive to being an adult. And sorry for the “vaguebooking” but it’s just a yucky situation and I don’t feel I have the ability to be completely open about it.