Posted in Church, Kids

My Childhood Hymns are Not Their Childhood Worship

Subtitle: What my children are nostalgic about sometimes really surprises me.

Laura is at college. She went away with CRU on a weekend retreat and they had worship time. She texted me with a line from a worship song, wanting to know if I remembered the rest so she could sing it. I was able to, texted it back and she was so happy. Her comment? “I miss worship time when you and Dad led worship. I loved the music then.”

Whoa. I literally never thought about it that way. For me, that time was good, but also stressful. It was about five years of devoting ourselves to being the worship leaders in our church and was extremely draining. I never thought about it being something our kids remembered, let alone loved and were nostalgic about.

I grew up Baptist. Church, from the time I was born, was sitting in the back right pew, singing hymns from the hymnal. As a teenager I hated that and pretty much turned my back on it, embracing modern worship. As a 50+ year old woman, I look back on that time with fondness and gratefulness at the strong theology that was build into those hymns. Plus some great harmonies!

Jim didn’t grow up in church and has no similar memories. Church for him started in high school and, while including some hymns, was more the worship music that is so popular now.

As a dating couple and young marrieds, we were extremely blessed to be part of an incredibly musically talented church with four or fives worship teams, and all different types of music, including a professional Christian band. When we left that church (for many and varied reasons), we skipped church for a good, long time. After finally making our way back, we “sat in the pew” for a few years and then became worship leaders in 2008, when the kids were 7 and 5. So, yeah, in thinking about it, we WERE their worship model for a large portion of their childhood years!

All this to say, it kind of rocked my world to hear my daughter misses when her father and I were her the worship leaders.

Posted in Christian, Family, Health, Money

Where Things Stand

I’ve done this off and on over the years and thought it was time for another:

Health: It’s an uphill battle to getting healthy, but I’m working on it. After my last visit to the endocrinologist, whereby she read me the riot act in a polite way, I’ve been eating better and taking my medication again. I get bloodwork in mid-November and see her the week after, so we’ll see if there’s any improvement. Also, I scheduled my first colonoscopy today (November 15th) and got my umpteenth allergy shot, still continuing weekly. Both boys are getting plastic surgery this month to fix some stuff leftover from when they were tiny babies. Hoping for good outcomes for both.

Education: Laura is thriving at college, Catie is slogging through 11th grade much the same way Bennett and Laura did. Ethan is enjoying senior year. Only one IEP this year, and that’s in December. At this stage I’m not fighting about homework anymore, which is a wonderful thing.

Finances: August and September stunk as usual. October is good and November will be even better. My part time job helped pay for the lawyer’s services this month (special needs paperwork/ HIPAA etc signed by the triplets).

Spirit: I’m feeling friendly towards the Holy Spirit these days. Other than a few days ago, I’ve been to church each Sunday since I started back (and that’s going by myself!). I’m thoroughly enjoying it–the music, the messages, seeing Laura and my sister there….I just need to make some friends, which is a little challenging right now. I’m having a hard time keeping up with my existing ones as it is!

Family: Things are pretty good! Jim and have been doing marriage counseling for awhile now, which has been great. Figuring out how to do things differently has been wonderful for us. Catie is settling into CPFA (fine arts school) and is taking choir, acting, ceramics and piano. In other words, utterly different from the plan that Laura followed. I love how different my girls are from each other, but they are both so talented! Ethan still has a special friend.

All in all, things are actually going well for now. I’m continuing to adjust to working part time–figuring out grocery shopping and doing things around work hours instead of during.

Posted in Job

Four Days In

Sounds like a motel name, doesn’t it?

I have worked at my new job for four days. Today I will complete my first week. Just saying that is still weird!

Having never really worked part time as an adult, it is quite different from working full time. Full time your days are spoken for. You work. You fit things in as you can, take time off when you need to and have those two weeks vacation to plan.

Part time, notsomuch. I leave home around 9:40-9:45 because I live close to work. I work from 10-2 and then leave, regardless of what’s still to do on my desk. I tidy up because I share my office with the techs, but that’s it. My days thus far have been mostly data entry and helping with things for their conference they are hosting today (filling “swag bags”, putting name tags in lanyards etc). Today I will answer the phone while everyone is at the conference, which is a step short of hilarious. I can direct customers to their local offices, but if they need literally anything else I’m just taking a message.

With only five other people in the office I know everyone’s names and speak to them pretty much each day. I know the office manager the best because she’s basically my boss (which she thinks is really funny; she’s not really my boss, but she’s the one that gives me work to do, so I tell her she’s my boss).

ANYWAY! A week in, it’s fun. I know I’m helping them–doing backlogged work and things they literally just haven’t had the time to get to since January. It’s somewhat mindless (as I was putting things in the bags I’m thinking “I went to college for this?”), but I’m viewing these first few months as my proving who I am. I am going to say yes. I am going to do everything you ask me to. I’m going to show you I’m smarter and quicker than you think I am. You’re going to want to give me more responsibility.

The weird thing is with all this, I tend not to believe in myself. I tend to doubt my own worth–constantly! But for whatever reason, in this I’m not. I KNOW I’m good at this job. I KNOW I’m helpful to them and I’m good at what I do. Where did this self-confidence come from???

TL:DR, I’m enjoying my work and like it so far. 🙂

Posted in Job, Me

The Journey is Just as Important as the Destination, but Sometimes the Destination is Pretty Great Too

Last time i wrote about job hunting. I had the interview; it went ok. I didn’t get the job. I was fine. I didn’t really WANT the job–it was honestly more than I was looking for, plus I wasn’t sure about the parking situation and the hours.

The exact same day I got the very nicely worded “thanks but no thanks” email, I got an email response from a Craigslist ad I had responded to back in July. So, 3 weeks beforehand. I hadn’t heard anything back and so figured that was a “nevermind”, but no, I think the wheels just turned rather slowly. They asked me in for an interview on Tuesday. I dressed carefully in dress pants, a nice blouse and black heels.

When I arrived I was greeted by a woman in shorts. And I interviewed with her and the boss, who also wore shorts. SHORTS, people! The boss kind of swiped his hand in a circle over my resume and said “well, everything here just says yes”. Um, ok! The interview, if you want to call it that, was more the boss and the administrative assistant/Gal Friday talking about the company, what they do, what they need, what they have no clue about and me assuring them that yes, whatever it was I could be a big help. They walked me around the office. I met the two other people there. We shook hands and I walked out after maybe 20. But it FELT SO RIGHT every single second I was there. They told me during the interview that I would hear back after Labor Day. Ok, fine.

I drove home just so darn excited. I didn’t want to get my hopes up, because there is always someone out there better than you. But they really seemed to like me? At least, boy, it sure felt like it!

So, today, I was pulling into the UPS store to return a box to Amazon and happened to check my email in the parking lot. There was a JOB OFFER! Which I ACCEPTED! I cheered and yelled and then promptly cried in my SUV. In the parking lot. In front of the Chinese restaurant next to the UPS.

I AM EMPLOYED PEOPLE!! By someone who will take taxes out of my paycheck!

So here’s the thing. This whole process I have not obsessed. I have not worried. I have not been an impatient control freak. I honestly felt this whole time that God had something in mind–the right job for me, and the right Me for the company, if that makes sense. Both had to fit. When I didn’t get that first job–didn’t get an INTERVIEW or even an EMAIL, I was disheartened and disappointed, because it really seemed like the “perfect” job. But I believed that there must be something better out there for me. And this company–from the very first second that I shook the gal’s hand–felt RIGHT. Small company (5 people plus me now), really great boss and really great admin. I know that I will be able to use my gifts and help them.

And while everyone keeps laughing about this, I get to wear JEANS. In all this, I was willing to do the dress up thing. But I didn’t want to. I felt like stamping my foot at the idea. I bought three dress pants (took the tags off one of them only), bought a couple of blouses. But when the admin said “oh, we’re casual here, wear shorts or jeans” I was beyond thrilled.

So here’s the overall details: I’ll work Monday through Friday, 10-2. It’s 11 minutes from my house and 6 minutes to Bennett’s work (so I can pick him up after if his shift ends at 2) (which it frequently does). I get to wear jeans. It’s a very small company that is growing very quickly. It’s a part time job but they could see it turning to full time in a couple of years, which could totally work for me with Ethan’s schooling.

So, basically, the perfect job. Orchestrated by God. I’m just so very grateful!

Posted in Job, Me

Adventures in Job Hunting

As you know, things have changed a bit around here. In four and a half weeks when school starts, I’ll have: one away at college, one working mostly part time, one in school full time at Overbrook and one splitting time between gifted school and performing arts school.

That’s a TINY BIT different from how life has gone on the past almost-18 years.

It was my intention (and how many times have I said THAT on this blog?!) to start looking for jobs once we got past Labor Day.

However, I started looking around. There was a seemingly PERFECT job (literally less than a mile from my house) so I sent out my resume and a cover letter and never heard anything. Once I started looking I just kind of kept on doing it.

As my counselor told me, God knows what’s going to happen and God even has a job in mind for me. Now, sometimes I’m not great with that concept, but this time I actually am. I’ve been checking the job listing posts and sending in resumes–I think six so far–part time administrative assistant jobs within a 10 mile radius of my zip code and not working nights or weekends are not so abundant. I have the luxury (and I totally acknowledge that!) of being picky. I don’t want to work weird hours. I still honestly consider my first responsibility is to my family.

I was getting a little discouraged. I hadn’t heard ANYTHING from ANY of them. And I really think I’d be great at all of them! Finally a few days ago I got an email from one asking if I understood the part time nature of the position and the salary parameters. I’m guessing they’ve been burned by people having issues with either or both? Either way, I’m fine with both. Full time is just NOT an option right now.

Then, weirdly enough, they sent me a request for SIX references! Two coworker/peers (I don’t really have that, but figured it out), two relatives and two manager/supervisor/professor/teacher. For the last one I contacted the teachers of the class I took this past spring and one did it right away. So yesterday afternoon they emailed, wanting a phone interview on Friday!

People, the last time I interviewed was about two years before I left my old job, so roughly 20-odd years ago!

The phone part of it will allow me more time to go out and buy a few things. I have ONE pair of dress pants that I wear to funerals and weddings, and only dressy blouses appropriate for those occasions. Nothing “business like”. I remember how much we spent when Jim needed a professional wardrobe. Hopefully I will be much, much less expensive!

So to wrap this finally up, I’m excited, but keeping it on the downlow, because I 1) don’t want to get my hopes up and 2) don’t want to spend my days obsessing about this!

Posted in Health, Kids, School, To Do List

Summer is Full and Flying By

Sorry for the lack of posting! The last time I posted was June 17. We had celebrated the graduation of Bennett and Laura.

Since then: hosting the largest party I’ve ever hosted for the graduation, TONS of doctor appointments, meeting with our lawyer to set up a special needs trust for another Laura, dropping off Ethan at camp, picking him up after him having a great week, meeting with our future autism services people, dropping off Ethan at TVI (Transition Vocational Initiative) at Overbrook for three weeks, doing med checks and changing meds for the girls, Laura as of today being on the full dose of anti-seizure meds (and therefore sleeping a TON as her body acclimates), buying college stuff for Laura (surprisingly fun!), helping Bennett get a job at Wawa (VERY popular local version of 7-11 for you out of the area people), helping him fill out paperwork and needing to go and buy non-slip shoes, dropping off Catie and picking up Catie every week day from her junior counselor job, figuring out college loans, dealing with Jim working late pretty much all the time for until mid-September…

I somehow thought this summer would be quieter! We only have five weeks left until Laura moves out (it’s FLYING by so quickly as the title says!), and a few days short of seven weeks until school starts for the two attending. TWO? TWO!

Which is why I’m looking for a job. What in the world will I do with myself with only two kids to worry about?!

 

Posted in Kids

Graduation

They did it. WE did it! Bennett and Laura graduated on Saturday. I cried up to the ceremony, but did pretty well during and after. I love those two kids and it’s SUCH a HUGE milestone! From not even a kilogram at birth to high school graduates!

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