I liken telling someone about my sex addiction to a gay person “coming out of the closet”. It’s difficult to do. You don’t want it to be this big, huge deal. You never know what reaction you’re going to get. You’d rather it came up somehow in conversation, but it generally doesn’t so you have to artificially insert it there and hope it doesn’t devolve into an interrogation or shocked silence.
Outside of this blog, which, thankfully, is rather anonymous, I have told only a handful of very trusted individuals. I think I want to add one more. I’ve been developing a friendship with our new pastor’s wife (the pastor is new, not his wife!) and am starting to feel like we’ve come to a place where I can share it. I’d love to have “pasts” come up in conversation, which would allow it to feel more natural, but as I said above, it will most likely be me taking a deep breath and saying “when I was a kid….” and going from there.
So here’s my question to you, my dear readers. What was your honest first response when I told you (via here) about my addiction?